BAKING WITH THULI

I'm sure most of you have heard me mention Pastor Clement- a long time friend who has helped us in so many ways here in South Africa.  Below is a picture of his wife, Thuli.  A dear friend of mine.  

She worked for us at the Care Home and then worked as a private care giver in Richards Bay after the Care Home closed.  But, her heart really wanted to be at home with her husband, helping with the Christian School on their property, ministering to church members and taking care of her children.  

Since she had acquired an oven, she spoke to a tuck shop on the main road (small store that sells coke, candy, chips, cell phone minutes, etc) about selling some baked goods.  This would give her a small income and allow her to stay at home.  

Most homes out in the rural don't have ovens.  The ladies cook on electric/gas burners that sit on the kitchen counters or table.  So, baked goods are a real treat!  The shop was very keen to sell her items, but she knew she needed practice first.  She had lots of questions, like- how to cut in butter, how does a tooth pick tell you when something is done?  And, she couldn't wait to watch me separate an egg yolk from the whites.

So, we've been pouring over recipes.  The criteria- easy, yummy and cost-effective.  

It has been a lot of fun to bake with her and watch her confidence grow!  We've tried multiple variations of scones, cookies, and muffins.  She's already been baking lots of bread.

This is her kitchen space.  No running water and we can only run one electric appliance at a time.  The tubs on the table are for washing dishes.  But, isn't the oven in the back beautiful?!

Below are pictures of my drive out to Thuli's.  She lives about 35 minutes outside Richards Bay.  We've been traveling there for so many years, that most people on this road know our vehicle and smile and wave.  But, I do like having the 4x4 for when the road is flooded or I need to "push" through a crowd of guys hanging out waiting for a taxi.

This is Thuli's youngest son.  I spend most of my time there trying to get him to smile . . . so far no luck!

QUICK TRIP TO THE STATES

How do you sum up a 3 week trip back to the States?

    . . . . . . lots of family, lots of food, lots of fun, lots of airplanes and one big Missionary Enrichment conference with our mission board.

The trip was everything each of us needed (whether we realized it at the time or not).  Hugs from family, opportunities to share our ministry at two churches, encouragement from our ABWE home staff.  

There were so many pictures to choose from, but these are a few of my favorites.  

Meeka meeting her cousin Abby for the first time

Bubbles with more cousins

Natalie kayaking with Kyle and Uncle Mark

Great picture of my parents with all their grandkids

Natalie being silly at the zoo

Emily being silly at the zoo

Aunt Sherry and me

THE BLESSING OF VETERAN MISSIONARIES

Kyle and I arrived in South Africa 7 years ago.  At times we feel like it was just yesterday and many days I still count myself a "new" missionary with SOOO much to learn.

But for these past few years we've had a blessing from God living 5 minutes away-  Veteran Missionaries!

Gary and MaryJane Strange served in Kenya before coming to South Africa.  Unfortunately, they are retiring in September and heading back to the states :(  It honestly about breaks my heart.

But, here is my list of the ways they have blessed my family.

They listen to us
They come over and play dominos and eat popcorn
They babysit our children
They understand our struggles and when we miss home
They encourage us
They tell missionary stories we learn from
They give us hugs . . .  this is huge because we don't have family around
They set an example of faithfulness that spurs us on
They celebrate birthdays with us . . and Christmas . . .  and Thanksgiving . . . and Easter . . .

Thanks Gary and MaryJane for living out your lives with us these past couple years!

TIME MANAGEMENT

Time management . . . .  a phrase that sometimes makes me cringe!  

It makes me think of tasks.  All my tasks.  All the tasks that don't get done.  All the cleaning.  All the "good mommy" activities that should be happening in my home. 

This quickly spirals to "I'm not very good at this" thoughts . . . . which rapidly leads to gloomy moods . . . . which instantly ruins my day.

Yup, the phrase makes me cringe!

All that changed when I started working through a Bible study called "Becoming a Woman of Excellence"  by Cynthia Heald.  It was given to me by a veteran missionary wife and I am so thankful for her thoughtfulness.  

Over this past year, it has helped mold my attitude in my home.  It has helped me find perspective!

In a nutshell, the book unpacks the worldly view of excellence vs the Biblical view of excellence.

Worldly view- excellence is accomplishing TASKS with a high degree of proficiency.
Biblical view- excellence is pursing the highest or best in; Godly virtues, Godly knowledge, striving towards holiness

Wow!  What a difference between the two.

I found myself asking, "Do I have a virtue that I would be 'excellent' at? Am I more concerned with having an excellently, clean home or excellent meals for my family?  Do my children see me wanting to be excellent in the Godly management of my home, or just be excellent in the tasks I do?"

Philippians 1:10  "So that you may approve the things that are excellent, in order to be sincere and blameless until the day of Christ."

God's things are excellent!  Striving to center my tasks around His will produces excellence.  
This lifted a huge burden off me.  The burden to perform and live up to expectations that aren't fulfilling.  It took some restructuring of my priorities.  I had to "relabel" what an excellent day looked like to me.

Before, being excellent in my day meant; clean house, home schooling accomplished, healthy meals cooked, missionary admin taken care of, blah, blah, blah.  I would come to bedtime and feel if all of the above items were in order then I had managed my time well, accomplished my tasks, proved excellent at my job.

Now (and this is still a work in progress), I come to bed and reflect on my day;  was I patient with my children, did I demonstrate my husband's love language, did anything in my day point my children to Christ?

Yes, I still clean the house and cook healthy meals, but I don't measure my success or my excellence by my tasks.   I'm not striving to finish my "list" by the end of the day, but to practice Godly qualities through my list.  Some days I manage, some days I fail.  But, the process is so much more fulfilling!  The tasks can take on such deeper meaning when they are a means of working on our holiness.  

I can choose to demonstrate patience when my children keep interrupting me while cooking.
I can choose to put down my broom and read a book to Natalie when she asks.
I can choose to invite my children into my tasks and take on a teacher role even though I know it will take me twice as long.
I can choose to be joyful even when I am exhausted.
I can choose not to complain.

Accomplishing a list like above is now what makes me smile at the end of the day, even if the broom is still sitting where I left it.
   

GUEST POST BY KYLE

Redefining success

I sat listening as a Zulu pastor unburdened his ministry challenges. He is a well respected community leader and an excellent testimony for the Lord. God has greatly blessed his ministry. But while listening I realized something: many of his upcoming decisions could make or break the ministry. They were sink or swim.

My next thought hit me like a mortar. For so long I have been focused on the success of “my ministry”, but here was a ministry on the verge of collapse. If his ministry failed it will be a huge blow to the spread of the gospel. The most important thing I could right now was to do was lay aside “my ministry” and focus on building up “his ministry”.

By empowering this pastor, his ministry would continue to succeed long after I am gone.  It would succeed in culturally relevant ways that I never could. And if ten pastors like him could be empowered, then their success multiplies, reaching far more people than I ever could. Enduring. Culturally relevant. Multiplying.  

As we launch into Zulu pastoral training, how I define success is very important. Will I define success by what I accomplish (how many pastors I train) or by what others accomplish (seeing pastors succeed)? I realize that my thinking needed to change. I need to redefine success. I used to define success as: seeing my ministry flourish. Sure, I was happy when others succeeded, but my success was not connected to their’s. But now, as I pour all of my energies into other pastors' ministries, their success is my success. 

Flagship vs. Submarine Ministries

To redefine success, my pride takes a direct hit. It is nice to say: "look what my ministry accomplished". There is always a strong temptation in ministry to have a flagship ministry.  Just as a naval force’s flagship is the most well known and important, a flagship ministry is the highly visible ministry that everyone sees. This is not to say that flagship ministries are wrong! They are needed. But if there is an existing flagship, a second one just gets in the way. 

In our area, more submarines are needed, not more flagships. A submarine ministry takes a different approach: empower the flagship. Just as a naval flagship has multiple submarines offering support, so submarine ministries offer support to the flagship ministry. Rarely seen. Always empowering. It exists to help the flagship succeed. That is success. 

Pray that God blesses these pastor's ministries and helps them to succeed. Pray also that I will be a faithful submarine!

Kyle

Missionary Gary Strange teaching Zulu pastors

EMILY TURNS 10

Birthdays are fun in our house.  March 4th is no exception!

Emily loves the days leading up to her Birthday celebration and constantly changes her mind as to what to have for dinner and dessert.  I never know what she will choose.

And that's what I love about Emily.

She's creative.  Funny.  Loves everything deeply.  And feels everything even deeper.

Her relationship with God is lived full force and the questions she asks always get me thinking.

She's constantly building something and "creating".  Her mind is always whirling.

Maybe that's why she changed her mind about a thousand times for her birthday dinner!

She settled on chicken and egg fried rice and ice cream sundays.  It was all yummy :)

What a blessing she is to our family!

 She sure loves her dog Duchess!

 Very surprised by Abby's gift

 Ice cream sundays with carmel sauce

10 years ago :)

CELEBRATING 7 YEARS

Every year, we try to go out to eat and celebrate God bringing us to live/work in South Africa.

Feb 28th marked seven years.  It doesn't feel like that long.  Time has gone by so fast with lots of incredibly memories.  Our children have lived here longer than in the States.  Kyle and I have lived more of our married life, here than at "home".  But, even after these 7 years there are still some days when we feel like we don't belong or don't have a clue as to what we are doing!  So, we try to take time out as a family and talk about this "journey".  It impacts each of us differently.  There are so many joys, but also a few heartaches.

I'll share some of the things we talked about:

Question #1- What to you is extra special about living in South Africa?
        Kyle- Going to the game park.  Traveling to places on my motorcycle
        Heather- traveling to some beautiful places in the country
        Abby- participating in Rhythmic gymnastics
        Emily- being a part of the Rhythmic gymnastic team
        Natalie- warm weather to swim

Question #2- What do you not like about living in South Africa?
        Kyle- the crime and being away from family
        Heather- my answer was the same as Kyle's
        Abby- lack of safety and so many different language barriers
        Emily- seeing so much suffering
        Natalie- didn't really have one :)

Question #3- What do you look forward to in this next year?
        Kyle- building into other people and pastors
        Heather- there are lots of events coming up like, my parents visiting in April, a trip home in July, Regional Conference in Oct
        Abby- making new friends
        Emily- making new friends and helping new pastors
        Natalie- playing

At Mugg N Bean waiting for our sandwiches.  We thought we were going to enjoy a nice cool lunch, but it was sooooo hot outside that the air conditioners for the mall couldn't keep up.  It was so sticky in that booth :)